it's a tough job - Tennisopolis : Tennis Social Network2024-03-28T22:05:34Zhttp://tennisopolis.com/forum/topics/its-a-tough-job?groupUrl=tennisparents&commentId=1869403%3AComment%3A365011&groupId=1869403%3AGroup%3A296893&feed=yes&xn_auth=noparents have to be parents fi…tag:tennisopolis.com,2009-10-05:1869403:Comment:3650122009-10-05T06:39:40.531ZGary Sakumahttp://tennisopolis.com/profile/GarySakuma
parents have to be parents first. coaches have to be coaches first. try to separate the two roles
parents have to be parents first. coaches have to be coaches first. try to separate the two roles love your child regardless of…tag:tennisopolis.com,2009-10-05:1869403:Comment:3650112009-10-05T06:39:14.619ZGary Sakumahttp://tennisopolis.com/profile/GarySakuma
love your child regardless of the score in the match.<br />
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the first question you should ask them when they come off the court is:<br />
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How did you play?<br />
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why?<br />
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because when they say they played awesome, then that's all that matters-tennis is a progression, as long as they succeed and take one step forward in their shot making, mental game, etc, they are going to be better in the long run. hey, even if Andy Roddick plays awesome, he loses to Federer most of the time. the promise is in improved…
love your child regardless of the score in the match.<br />
<br />
the first question you should ask them when they come off the court is:<br />
<br />
How did you play?<br />
<br />
why?<br />
<br />
because when they say they played awesome, then that's all that matters-tennis is a progression, as long as they succeed and take one step forward in their shot making, mental game, etc, they are going to be better in the long run. hey, even if Andy Roddick plays awesome, he loses to Federer most of the time. the promise is in improved performance over the long haul.<br />
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your kid knows if they play well or not.<br />
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if they don't play well, they will probably lose so that solves that discussion.<br />
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then you can say what happened? how can we fix this? etc.<br />
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DO NOT patronize them, do not false encourage them. just listen and move on.<br />
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when my teams lost big matches, we went for ice cream. when we won big matches, it was just the way it is, we expect to win.<br />
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BUT if my teams lost big matches and people didn't give 100% effort or support, then we ran....<br />
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<cite>Gary Sakuma said:</cite><blockquote cite="http://tennisopolis.ning.com/group/tennisparents/forum/comment/show?id=1869403%3AComment%3A365009&xn_out=json&firstPage=1&lastPage=1&_=1254724532234&xg_token=181a88ba4b7063016d8d2bfeecd7157c#1869403Comment365009"><div>the first thing that is the hardest for a tennis parent to do is....</div>
</blockquote> the first thing that is the h…tag:tennisopolis.com,2009-10-05:1869403:Comment:3650092009-10-05T06:35:31.669ZGary Sakumahttp://tennisopolis.com/profile/GarySakuma
the first thing that is the hardest for a tennis parent to do is....
the first thing that is the hardest for a tennis parent to do is....