What is the proper etiquette to politely uninvite a player if you find that your levels do not match so that the game is not competitive and even frustrating?
Here is the background for this question:
You invite someone because of the level that they say they are. Then you play once or twice to gauge each other's true level. If you find out the other player's level is not sufficient to sustain a reasonable warm-up rally much less to have a competitive game, how do you politely decline playing again with that person. Someone has suggested that you just avoid that person or ignore his phone calls. The other option is to suffer in silence. I believe that it is better to let the other person know by gently explaining the situation rather than leaving him clueless.
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Thanks for your reply. I did not make any excuse to the person because I responded to his e-mail, invited him to our community court and disclosed to him that I am looking for a group to play with. However, I did explain as politely as I can (thru text so I can select my words carefully) that it would be more beneficial for him to improve if he plays with players closer to his level. I even offered to introduce him to some of my friends that I think are the same level as he. Well, so far I have not received an answer which leads me to conclude that he may not have taken it well.
Well, then life goes on, right? Sounds like you did the right thing. Many tennis players do not have an accurate assessment of their level; they think they are better than they are. When I play this type, I do not hold back an make sure to beat them handedly (6-1 in a set, or 21-8 for instance in a game of 21.) This helps when it comes time to let them know. But, I think you are safe to leave this behind you.